Unapologetic:
Claim the Life You Want. Live the Life You Mean.
We’re trapped in a culture of chase, always reaching, never arriving. We chase success, validation, dopamine, likes, self-pleasure, relevance, distraction — the Attainment Culture.
The trade? Our depth. Our clarity. Our center. We forget how to listen to the quiet voice beneath the noise — the one asking not for more, but for meaning.
Attunement Culture is the shift. From proving to becoming. From reaction to presence. From speed to sovereignty.
It’s not about optimizing your hustle. It’s about designing a life with gravity — one that draws what matters toward you.
This isn’t mysticism, and it’s not another set of life hacks. It’s a new operating system: one rooted in emotional steadiness, coherence, and a fierce integrity. Built from Integral principles, forged through lived practice, and aimed at something most self-help never touches — actual change.
Pause and consider…
Where do you go for information? (your phone, the news?)
For knowledge? (AI, podcasts)?
And for wisdom?
My teacher, Junpo Denis Kelly Roshi
“Enlightenment is intimacy with all things.”
— Dōgen Zenji
What’s Different
Most self-improvement sticks to the surface. Linear goals. Weekly habits. Behavior tweaks. Useful — but not enough, which is why it often fails.
This course goes deeper. It integrates that Rational linear toolkit, yes — but it adds what most systems ignore: the hidden architecture underneath your behavior (complex adaptive systems). The emotional patterns. The shadow impulses. The nervous system wiring that overrides your best intentions before they ever take root.
This means future growth is placed inside a realistic context:
the shadow voices that sabotage you,
the patterns that trigger reactivity instead of response,
the conditioning that drags you out of the present moment,
the unconscious habits (especially with your phone) that fracture your attention and drain your presence.
Because here’s the truth:
You can’t build a new life with the same nervous system that built the old one. We’re going to retrain the system itself.
January 13 - March 3;
Tuesdays
11:30 a.m. MT,
75 minutes a class.
The Course
Across eight weeks, you will develop a grounded capacity to:
stay with discomfort rather than escape it
respond rather than react
grow comfortable being uncomfortable
feel your values in your body rather than only on a vision board,
name a six-month direction that matters,
close the gap between what you say you want and how you actually life
This is not mindset work. This is system work.
Each week, we’ll track what you actually did versus what you said you would. Not to shame — but to see. And in the seeing, uncover the deeper patterns that quietly run your life: conflicting values, inherited beliefs, unspoken stories, and the shadows you’ve never looked at directly.
This is practical, embodied, incremental work.
Not inspiration. Not theory. Real change.
Core Practices
We build from the body up. This course introduces a living ecosystem of practices — simple, powerful, and designed to reshape you from the inside out.
You’ll work with:
Breath and grounding techniques to regulate your nervous system.
Meditation that actually fits a modern life.
Embodied inquiries to interrupt reactivity in real time.
Relational practices to deepen presence and attunement with others.
Weekly integrity check-ins that track the truth of what you're doing — and not doing.
The Life Audit — a brutally honest, deeply compassionate inventory of how your values, vision, and actions align (or don’t).
Each week adds complexity without overwhelm. This is layered change: small, deliberate shifts that build emotional steadiness, sharpen self-trust, and increase your coherence. Slowly, your system learns to hold more. To stay with more. To fragment less.
We’ll also tackle that device in your hand. You’ll learn to reclaim your attention by redesigning how you use your phone — creating deliberate micro-gaps in screen time that restore awareness, calm the system, and return your attention to you.
These aren’t hacks. They’re thresholds.
Cross enough of them, and your presence begins to return. And presence — not performance — is the foundation of all real transformation.
We will:
We’ll confront, directly and compassionately, where you drift from your own potential. You’ll learn to feel (not just see) the gap between what you say matters and how you actually live.
Together, we’ll build the capacity to:
Stay emotionally steady in the face of discomfort.
Be honest about what’s not working — without collapse or self-judgment.
Name what’s in the way: stories, shadow patterns, conditioning, conflicting commitments.
Create the emotional resilience to live inside tension — without numbing, fixing, or fleeing.
And you’ll be held — gently, consistently, honestly — by a community doing this work alongside you.
Emotional regulation is today’s luxury good. You can’t buy it no matter how rich you are. You can only become it.
What emerges through this practice will be more clarity, patience, self-trust, and agency to live a life that’s congruent, present, joyful, and wholly your own.
LOGISTICS
8 live sessions, 75 minutes
Starts January 13, 2026
Tuesdays 11:30 MT
Price: $550 through January 4
Includes recordings, a private community, and ongoing support between sessions
Limited enrollment to preserve real dialogue
Why Us
Keith Martin-Smith is an award-winning author of six books, an executive coach, ordained Zen priest, developmental editor, and Northern Kung Fu lineage holder. His work weaves together spiritual discipline, psychological depth, and the creative courage to meet life fully. Keith brings intensity, humor, presence, and the lived experience of someone who has spent decades integrating real-world responsibility with deep practice.
David Arrell is a strategist, leadership coach, and one of the clearest developmental thinkers working today. He’s a master at translating abstract frameworks into tools that land — and stick. His work cuts through the fog of self-help and delivers structure, clarity, and momentum.
What we share is simple: a devotion to the work itself.
We don’t sit above you. We sit with you. We practice alongside you.
Final Word
You will not — and cannot — become someone you haven’t first imagined. Your life is already on a path. You’re walking it, whether you’ve chosen it or not.
If you want a different life, it starts here:
• See it
• Name it
• Claim it
• Work for it
We’ll walk with you for the first two months of that new life to remind you — week after week — who you said you wanted to become.
In six months, you will not be the same person you are today.
But nothing changes unless you choose to begin.
Begin.