The Grounded Man
Fall Intensive
Sept 25-27, 2026
Elkstone Farm
Steamboat Springs, CO
Under the aspens, we get real.
A fall men’s intensive for men who want to stop drifting and build a life with strength, heart, and accountability.
There is a lot of men’s work out there, and a lot of it creates heat without creating change.
This weekend is built for something else: grounded men. Men who can tell the truth, take feedback, build real strength, and bring more heart to the places that matter most.
September 25–27
Steamboat Springs, Colorado
700-acre farm | 15 men max
$997 early bird through Sept 1
Save $300
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Who It is for
This is for men who are willing to be challenged.
Men who want clarity, embodiment, accountability, and real practice. Men who want a stronger life, not just a moving weekend.
This is not therapy, nor …
A "safe space" performance.
For men who want to apologize for being men.
For men who want to hide in abstraction, debate, or excuses.
This is for men who are willing to tell the truth, take feedback, and practice.
What This Weekend is for
Men who are ready to stop wasting time, who:
Are successful on paper but flat in real life.
Can perform but are not fully alive.
Want more access to their power without becoming rigid, performative, or shut down.
Want more heart without collapsing, self-erasing, or losing their spine.
Are ready to get honest about where they are stuck and do something about it.
If you are done drifting, done hiding, and done pretending you will "figure it out later," this is for you.
What Happens Here
We work directly on the places men get stuck most: sex, money, connection, self-respect, and follow-through.
Through group work, partner work, embodiment practices, hot-seat coaching, shadow work, and fierce accountability.
This is practical, direct work designed to move your life, not just your emotions.
Problems We Address
Digital distraction taking away from presence
Overwhelm of world events
Collapse in the face of the critical feminine
Lack of purpose
How We Address Them:
Presence that matters
Focus on impacting the world through what you most care about
The ability to be honest with what is without collapse
The opportunity to be seen in the parts we don’t let others see with an acknowledgement that we are all human
Price includes Elkstone Farm-to-our-table gourmet meals with local meats and on-site, fresh veggies, prepared and served by the farm’s chef (breakfast, lunch, and dinner).
Early bird pricing through September 1. Save $300.
Friday 6-10 pm, Saturday 9-9 pm, Sunday 9-7 pm.
What You Walk Away With
You leave with sharper clarity about where you are drifting, direct feedback on what is costing you, practices you can use under pressure, stronger self-trust, a clearer standard for how you live as a man, and real contact with other men, not just surface connection. Most men do not need more information. They need stronger practice, better mirrors, and a room that does not let them hide. This weekend is built for that.
Specifics
We are not interested in intensity for its own sake. We are interested in change that holds up when you go home.
That means work you can actually use when:
your marriage is strained
your money story is running you
your temper is close to the surface
your confidence drops
your discipline slips
your phone becomes your escape
your work success stops feeling like a life
We work on grounded strength, honest self-confrontation, embodied presence, and the ability to stay open under pressure.
This will be led by experienced men’s work facilitators Jeffrey James Howard, Marco Lam, Keith Martin-Smith, and Eddie Konold.
Marco brings heart and life, open curiosity, and joy.
Jeffrey offers cutting clarity and accountability.
Eddie delivers everyday-man sensibility, a wide-open heart, and grounded intelligence.
Keith brings direct challenge, deep insight, and a no-bullshit path to strength with heart.
Together, this creates a weekend that is human, sharp, and real.
“Keith had a strong presence, physically and spiritually with meditation and embodiment exercises. Eddie was love and gentleness, killing it with kindness and active, warm, soft reflective listening and precise at picking up relational material to give back and act on. Marco was mindful, honest, and more of a quiet/wise leader and organizer. Jeffrey was an excellent facilitator, listener, and therapist, coming in with challenges that quickly closed in on the issues at hand, using a knife to sharpen his teeth and go in for the kill.
Watch out! They all worked very well together, cohesive, displayed confidence and therefore trust and a letting go into the work and the group. The container was beautiful and held tighter as the retreat came to a close. I would participate again. I would recommend this to any man wanting more from his relationships.”
— GA, Spring 2022
Schedule
Friday
6-7:15 - Council
7:30-8:30 pm Dinner at Elkstone Farm
8:30- 9:10 pm Fire circle: Turn up the heat
9:10 Close for the night
Saturday
9:00-9:40- Sit
9:45-10:15- Physical/embodiment exercise
10:15-1200 Content/circle/teaching
12:00-1:00- Lunch
1:00-3:30- Content/circle/teaching
3:30-5- Extended break/wander/practice period
5-6:30- Content/circle/teaching
6:30-7:30- Dinner
7:30-8:45- Closing circle for the day
8:45-9 — Warrior’s rest/Meditation
Sunday
9:00-9:40- Sit
9:40-10:00 Physical/embodiment exercise
10:00-11:30- Content/circle/teaching
11:30-11:45- Break
11:45-12:00- Physical/embodiment exercise
12:00-1:00- Lunch
1:00-3:30- Content/circle/teaching
3:30-3:45 Break
3:45 - 4:20 Circle/teaching
4:20 - 4:30 Break
4:30-6:00 - Bringing it home
6:00-7:00- Dinner
Lodging
There are two options for lodging for this event.
Camping, either in a tent or your camper van. There is no charge for camping, and all of the details will be managed by us. All you’ll need is bedding and protection from the weather. The rest will be provided. You’re only a 5-minute walk to the main house with showers, bathrooms, and a full kitchen, all open 24/7.
Airbnb or stay in a hotel in the town of Steamboat Springs, only a five-minute drive from the farm. If you’re interested in sharing a house or room with another man or group of men, please contact me and we’ll get you onto a shared list so you can coordinate with others. This cost is not covered.
Price includes Elkstone Farm-to-our-table gourmet meals with local meats and on-site, fresh veggies, prepared and served by the farm’s chef (breakfast, lunch, and dinner).
Early bird pricing through September 1. Save $300.
Friday 6-10 pm, Saturday 9-9 pm, Sunday 9-7 pm.