The Integrated Man:
Cultivating Masculine Power
October 4 - 6, 2024
Cut through Your Stories
Deepen Your Impact
Become the Man You Were Meant to Be
What is holding you back? At the end of the day the only one in your way is you.
You are responsible for creating the life you want. But you don’t have to do it alone. In fact, you can’t. We need each other.
If your heart was fully yours to express, if your gifts were unapologetically presented to the world, if you were willing to be as bold and as brave as you’ve witnessed men you admire being, what might you do with your one, precious life?
What parts of you are holding you back? Why?
Discover and claim your deepest power. This weekend is designed to help you to see, claim, and clarify your purpose in all the important places of your life — sex, intimacy, and romantic partnership. Career, money, and being lit up by what you do. Plus community, connection, and having a group to support and challenge you on the path.
You can’t do this alone. There are few things more powerful in the world than a group of strong, conscious, embodied men willing to serve one another.
Common Challenges We Address
Lack of emotional or physical intimacy (sex)
Career inertia
Poor boundaries (standing up to a boss, a spouse, a child, a parent)
Numbed out — unsure of what you’re really feeling (no feeling = no balls and no heart, which means your life is stuck)
Out of touch with your heart’s purpose
Scarcity in money, love, or life
Challenges with a marriage or partnership that seems to have run out of passion and energy
Feeling you need to manage the emotions of your partner, your boss, your children, or your parents (you don’t, and shouldn’t)
Feeling you’re too intense, or not intense enough
Masculine power comes with being in touch with your heart and your balls. You know these types of men, because they’re rare as the most precious of stones. These men can access an emotionality that is grounded, not weak. They have impeccable boundaries in love and work yet aren’t hard or calcified.
They are partnered with powerful women (or men) and able to be in a mature and heart-centered relationship that makes both people stronger than either one. They are strongly independent yet strive to create inter-dependent relationships (not co-dependent). They are vulnerable but still deeply masculine, strong, powerful, playful, and embodied.
The Integrated Man has integrated a strong back and a soft belly so he can get what he wants faster, easier. He knows love, intimacy, community. He is comfortable by himself, and in the stillness of meditation or nature. He knows who he is, what he stands for, and what he’s willing to die for.
We get one chance at life, one time through to bring
our gifts fully into the world.
Career. Love. Parenting. Creativity. Self-expression. Service.
In the (very) intensive weekend, you’ll learn to hold boundaries with an open heart; to take in criticism, and challenge but not collapse — or posture. You’ll gain the experience of being more humble and more powerful.
It’s time to transcend ideas of what the masculine can or should be in order to find your own intelligent, skillful, fully alive, highly relational, emotionally sophisticated, and deeply powerful self.
Practices Include:
Hot Seat practices — you’ll be placed in the center of a circle and get the full challenge and support of the four leaders
Being embodied — most men are cut off from what’s really happening inside of their bodies, which means they’re cut off from not just their heart but also their balls
Leading your own groups and helping other men to find greater clarity
Taking radical responsibility for your life and your relationships as they are right now
Getting out of your victim mindset that blames the other person for how you feel and what choices you think you have
Staying relational even in your biggest triggers — and why it matters for your own growth, ambition, and life fulfillment
Translating the work of the weekend to your real life
Leading with curiosity —especially when defensiveness and the impulse to fix or give advice are present
Mindful, fierce presence with yourself and with the other men. You’ll be taught how to slow down and be present with yourself and with others, and why it matters so much
Price includes Elkstone Farm-to-our-table gourmet meals with local meats and on-site, fresh veggies, prepared and served by the farm’s chef (breakfast, lunch, and dinner).
Friday 6-10 pm, Saturday 9-9 pm, Sunday 9-7 pm.
Save $100 before September 1.
This will be led by experienced men’s work facilitators Jeffrey James Howard, Marco Lam, Keith Martin-Smith, and Eddie Konold. Jeffrey and Eddie are licensed psychotherapists. Marco is an acupuncturist, permaculture expert, and community leader. Keith is an ordained Zen priest, published author, and martial arts lineage holder, and Marco and Keith have been in the same men’s group, with the same group of men, for 14+ years.
“Keith had a strong presence, physically and spiritually with meditation and embodiment exercises. Eddie was love and gentleness, killing it with kindness and active, warm, soft reflective listening and precise at picking up relational material to give back and act on. Marco was mindful, honest, and more of a quiet/wise leader and organizer. Jeffrey was an excellent facilitator, listener, and therapist, coming in with challenges that quickly closed in on the issues at hand, using a knife to sharpen his teeth and go in for the kill.
Watch out! They all worked very well together, cohesive, displayed confidence and therefore trust and a letting go into the work and the group. The container was beautiful and held tighter as the retreat came to a close. I would participate again. I would recommend this to any man wanting more from his relationships.”
— GA, Spring 2022
Schedule
Friday
6-7:15 - Council
7:30-8:30 pm Dinner at Elkstone Farm
8:30- 9:10 pm Fire circle: Turn up the heat
9:10 Close for the night
Saturday
9:00-9:40- Sit
9:45-10:15- Physical/embodiment exercise
10:15-1200 Content/circle/teaching
12:00-1:00- Lunch
1:00-3:30- Content/circle/teaching
3:30-5- Extended break/wander/practice period
5-6:30- Content/circle/teaching
6:30-7:30- Dinner
7:30-8:45- Closing circle for the day
8:45-9 — Warrior’s rest/Meditation
Sunday
9:00-9:40- Sit
9:40-10:00 Physical/embodiment exercise
10:00-11:30- Content/circle/teaching
11:30-11:45- Break
11:45-12:00- Physical/embodiment exercise
12:00-1:00- Lunch
1:00-3:30- Content/circle/teaching
3:30-3:45 Break
3:45 - 4:20 Circle/teaching
4:20 - 4:30 Break
4:30-6:00 - Bringing it home
6:00-7:00- Dinner
Price includes Elkstone Farm-to-our-table gourmet meals with local meats and on-site, fresh veggies, prepared and served by the farm’s chef (breakfast, lunch, and dinner).
Friday 6-10 pm, Saturday 9-9 pm, Sunday 9-7 pm.
Save $100 before September 1.
Lodging
There are two options for lodging for this event.
Camping, either in a tent or your camper van. There is no charge for camping, and all of the details will be managed by us. All you’ll need is bedding and protection from the weather. The rest will be provided. You’re only a 5-minute walk to the main house. Showers and bathrooms, and a full kitchen, at at the main house and open 24/7.
Airbnb or stay in a hotel in the town of Steamboat Springs, only a five-minute drive from the farm. If you’re interested in sharing a house or room with another man or group of men, please contact me and we’ll get you onto a shared list so you can coordinate with others. This cost is not covered.